How are you?....Forgiving..:)

.".They did this to me". Do you think that is right?? Or just?? Or fair?"
He ( or she) said this or that...true or not true...with malice or without....
We want people to understand what happened to us, what we felt...what we feel and to agree with us in our anger, in our resistance...in our negative emotion.  


It doesn't really matter who, or why....pain is pain.  The only real answer for pain is forgivness.  It is the grace of God in this time space reality.  We are human.  We do the dance between the spirit and the natural.  The spirit never needs forgivness.  It knows you (and they) are perfect...it is our natural (ego) mind that cannot grasp that...it lives in the world of polarized choices, right and wrong, up and down, good and bad.... so forgivness is the bridge for us.

Forgiveness will allow you to walk in peace. To live in peace. But in order for this to happen, you must want peace, the peace of God....peace that passes understanding..... more than you want to be right....more than you want to feel the sense of power that comes from anger.


The ego wants to be right (to feel powerful) and doesn't care if you are miserable or alone in your self-righteousness. You are not any more 'right" than your brother or any more "wrong" either. An argument comes because one has identified with a thought construct and has identified themselves with it. So now they must defend it. If they lose, if they are wrong...it threatens them. They are "losing" something".

We can sometimes deceive ourselves into thinking we have forgiven.


 We can say the appropriate things and think we feel rather neutral. But secretly we would be happy or pleased if something bad ( not terrible perhaps) just "bad".. happened to the offender. We want "our pound of flesh". We want to punish...or see them punished...or have them suffer...to some degree. 


When asked we might say that we aren't angry, we have forgiven...we just don't want to do have anything to do with them in any context. There is a good litmus test for those situations....anytime you really want to know if you have forgiven, imagine blessing that person, imagine them coming into money or having some unexpected good coming to them....how does that thought feel to you? If you can say "yes!" and even align your energy for that blessing, you have truly forgiven and it no longer holds places of your heart hostage.

You see, your lack of forgiveness, complete forgiveness, hinders, blocks, and hurts...only you. Well, that is not entirely accurate ...as all our thoughts and feelings effect others and we are either adding to the toxic mass or the uplifting energy...it does effect more than just you. But, the negative effect on you is much more substantial. There are parts of you that are not free, not able to be rejoined with the whole of you...you cannot really love freely...anyone...with unforgiveness binding up your heart energies.

Most people have someone or some situation come to mind when asked who they might forgive...What don't you like that has happened to you?.
 .... A person, something they did to you...on purpose or accidentally... ignorantly or with malice....large, long term...small incidental (it doesn't matter)or

..... a situation like the decline of the economy, the company layoffs, rain on your special day, your car breaks down..the death of your pet....illness....your job..losing your phone

....the past..yes, you can forgive the past...

......the future. ............even God.

If you think about this for a minute you can see that anything we don't like...that we react negatively to...that our emotions, our mind says..."No" I don't want it to be that way......means at some point we need to release that judgment.  Release the judgment and all the energies that it creates within.

So we can slip into" forgetfulness" or what I call "the dream" of our waking life....and have an encounter with another driver that takes less than 10 seconds...and we find we are angry...forgiveness is the way back. Forgiveness not just for the other but for yourself. Forgive yourself for taking the bait. They didn't intentionally bait you, but they did bait you and because you were lost in the dream you took the bait. You may even say " I knew better!!" "I knew better". Yes, but you were not awake. So it didn't matter what you "knew". You couldn't have remembered it because you were lost in the dream.

So as you think about "how you are"...what has happened to you, around you, in your life circumstances that has created feelings in you...begin to see that you do have a goal...you do want to release anything that holds you back from the joy that is in you. You really do want to release every negative thought, and feeling about every person, place or thing you have felt, big or small, new or old. Forgiveness is not something we do a couple of times or even several times in our lives...or only when we are really wounded...it is something we do daily...every time we forget...we release, we return....we walk the path of forgiveness...we walk the bridge back to our higher, freer more loving, more open selves. We walk the bridge back consciously to the place where love awaits.

So "how am I doing?.....I have experienced ups and downs and am as always.... forgiving....:)

Think on these.....breathe and smile into yourself, into your tired, worried unhappy, troubled places and breathe and hold them in love so they can be released. They are not "who you are"...they are streams (emotions) you have experienced or are experiencing.....love covers them all...beginning with you...yourself......release them...no fear...no fear.....breathe,,,
.....let them go.....

Breathe....and smile......

Selah....